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Grabbing Money April 25, 2011

Posted by erichaynes in Family Stories, Financial Freedom, General, Reflections on the Bible, Spiritual Journey, Stories of MyLife.
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When I was a teenager, I vowed that I would never give a church a red cent of my money.

Then God wormed His way into my hard heart and taught me the joy giving.  Once that first penny slipped from my tight-fisted hand, there was no turning back.  God began moving my heart from Selfish to Charitable.

But He didn’t stop there. He began to challenge me to be Extravagant in my giving, to the point that my wife would cringe whenever I would suggest giving money to some Need.  We sort of fell into an informal arrangement that if we were faced with a Need, we would both throw out a number, and the higher number was the one we went with.  I was winning these crazy bouts of spiritual roulette because I had quit being concerned about how God was going to use the finances.

Recently though, I’ve begun to notice that I’m not winning these contests any more.  For one thing, my lovely bride has been totally captured by the Extravagance of God and is giving like she was no longer a wife obsessed with financial security.  Crazy!

But on the other hand, I’ve noticed that I’m not jumping in with the same enthusiasm that I once had.  I’m not totally sure why that has happened, though it may have something to do with having worked in a small-budget non-profit for the past 8 years.  I spent a lot of time getting other people to give cheerfully while I carefully counted the proceeds, nervously hoping we’d make budget by year-end.

And though my wife and I give more money away than we ever have, I’m concerned that my heart isn’t in it; I’ve slipped from Extravagant back to Charitable.  You see, I don’t think you can measure the Journey of Giving by only how much you give, but by how you give it and how willingly you are to do it.

I was recently hit by Paul’s second letter to the Corinthians:

6-7Remember: A stingy planter gets a stingy crop; a lavish planter gets a lavish crop. I want each of you to take plenty of time to think it over, and make up your own mind what you will give. That will protect you against sob stories and arm-twisting. God loves it when the giver delights in the giving.

8-11God can pour on the blessings in astonishing ways so that you’re ready for anything and everything, more than just ready to do what needs to be done. As one psalmist puts it,

He throws caution to the winds,
giving to the needy in reckless abandon.
His right-living, right-giving ways
never run out, never wear out.

This most generous God who gives seed to the farmer that becomes bread for your meals is more than extravagant with you. He gives you something you can then give away, which grows into full-formed lives, robust in God, wealthy in every way, so that you can be generous in every way, producing with us great praise to God.

12-15Carrying out this social relief work involves far more than helping meet the bare needs of poor Christians. It also produces abundant and bountiful thanksgivings to God. This relief offering is a prod to live at your very best, showing your gratitude to God by being openly obedient to the plain meaning of the Message of Christ. You show your gratitude through your generous offerings to your needy brothers and sisters, and really toward everyone. Meanwhile, moved by the extravagance of God in your lives, they’ll respond by praying for you in passionate intercession for whatever you need. Thank God for this gift, his gift. No language can praise it enough! (The Message)

What is fascinating is that God is the one who give with reckless abandon!!  He let’s me sit and ponder and choose who and what I want to give to (with His money, no less), but He will take my decisions and make them Extravagant!

So, for me, the next step is to take a step towards Extravagant again.  I think I need to re-engage how we give and be excited and passionate about what we are giving to.  Giving is not an option.  But God loves it when we’re so engaged in the giving that Joy erupts every time we let go of another penny for the sake of His Glory.  I think God meant for our Giving to be Fun.

How about you? Is Giving something Fun, Painful, or Neither?  If it isn’t fun, you may want to consider the state of your heart.

Setting Priorities March 10, 2011

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To this John replied, “A man can receive only what is given him from heaven.” — John 3:27 (NIV)

In the midst of pressing priorities and daily action steps, there is only so much that can be accomplished.  How to choose?

John the Baptist was getting questions about his ministry and what his future priorities should be now that Jesus was out baptizing people.  John’s “ministry” was suffering from the new “competition” in town and some of his followers wanted to know what he was going to do about it.  John replied, “He [Jesus] must become greater; I must become less.” (Jn 3:30, NIV)

It was not John’s purpose in life to be the Messiah.  His purpose was to prepare the way.  He knew this and centered his life’s priorities around the purpose that he had been given (by God), not what he had not been given (or what he may have desired for himself).  He knew that man could not receive what he had not been given. 

Reading this today caused me to reflect on what have I been given that reveals what God desires for me to be doing, or prioritizing, in my life.  I came up with this list, in no particular order:

  • God has given me a wonderful wife — love her.
  • God has given me three incredible kids — teach them.
  • God has given me a passion for kids & families — reach out to them.
  • God has equipped me with a set of skills/experiences/gifts — use them to help others.
  • God has given me an ability and passion for storytelling — tell His story to those who have never heard it.
  • God has given me a body to dwell in — take care of it.
  • God has given me more resources than I need — share them with those who need.
  • God has given me a community of friends, neighbors, and family — serve and encourage them.
  • God has given me freedom from guilt, shame, and self-condemnation — live free!

What has God given to you?  Are you living your life out of those gifts, or are you grasping for things that you don’t and can’t have?

 

Touching Jesus March 3, 2011

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My youngest daughter said this morning that it was hard to love Jesus because you couldn’t touch him like she could touch mom or dad or someone here physically.  I cringed, knowing that I probably wasn’t going to be able to offer her an explanation over our breakfast of Pop-Tarts of Christ’s constant presence with us. A Tangible Touch

After walking her to school, I opened up God’s Word to the next passage in John that I wanted to explore.  It happened to be John 3: 9-15 where Jesus is conversing with a scholarly Jewish man named Nicodemus, who is confused by Jesus and what he represents.  One of the things Jesus says to him is this: “I have spoken to you of earthly things and you do not believe; how then will you believe if I speak of heavenly things?” (verse 12, NIV).

I want my daughter to know that Christ walks with her at every moment and he truly is as tangible in her life as her mom or dad.  But I have to ask myself: Am I believable?  Can I truly teach her about the heavenly wonders when I spend so little time sharing with her about earthly wonders? Now I know that I’m turning this particular passage on its head and reading into it something that isn’t there, but that’s what hit me.  Jesus spoke of earthly things first.  If my daughter can’t trust me in earthly matters, how will she trust me when I attempt to explore the heavenly with her, and ultimately point her to the Spirit that resides in those who believe?

So what do I do, not only for her, but for all those that I care about?  I think I have to begin living life more openly, and exploring more the lives of those around me.  My hope is that as I live this earthly life more deeply and openly that those moments of heavenly clarity will become as “tangible” to my children as they are to me.

God’s Story January 19, 2011

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A new year, and a new chapter in my Journal, this time focusing on the Book of John.  I think (I know…) I need to understand Jesus more.

1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. 2 He was with God in the beginning. 3 Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. 4 In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. 5 The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome[a] it. John 1:1-5

The problem with launching out to fulfill a new dream (i.e. “family ministry”) is that we forget that the Story isn’t really about us, it is about Christ (or “the Word”).  I want to be the hero, the romancer, the martyr in a story of my own making.  I want to dictate what is reality (or “light”).  I want to build my life, make sure I get all the treasures, and maybe help a few beggars on the way.  I want to woo the beautiful damsel-in-distress and win her heart.

But this world, this life, this everything was created by God — Father, Son, Spirit — and it is THEIR Story, not mine.  Jesus gets to be the Hero, the Romancer, and the Martyr.  We get to be the rescued, the damsel-in-distress, the unworthy receiver of martyred grace.  The light shines for us, but we reject our role.

It is hard to stay focused on building God’s dream for families in Kansas City, and not get distracted by Eric’s dreams for self-glory, praise, heroics.  But God reminds me at the beginning of John that nothing exists apart from God, apart from His story of Grace and Redemption, and that it ultimately is all about His Glory.  If I am to live in the light and not the darkness, I have to be willing to be rescued daily, to be swept off my feet by His love, and to accept that Jesus bled and died because of the selfishness of my heart that desires my own epic story.

EVERYTHING is about Jesus.  He was there in the very beginning; all things were created by and through Him, and He will tell this Story of Glory.  Our choice is to live in His Story, or keep attempting to wrest the glory for our own little — and mortal — stories.

Are you vainly telling YOUR story today, or living in God’s?

What do they see? August 18, 2010

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This is how we are to teach our children about Christ — we live it out in our own lives so they can see it, touch it, feel it — and understand that He is real: http://unforcedrthymsofgrace.blogspot.com/2010/08/2-kings-24-jeremiah-22-psalm-112-john.html

Showing our children the way...

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